Worst Experience in Your Life

[skyman747]

Hey, Seeing as a quick look through this section gave me no results, I thought I would make this thread.

I know everyone has gone through some terrible things in their lives, but here is a place for you to vent if you feel like it. To get this thread rolling, I will tell of my moments.

I moved from Beautiful California to Arkansas, which I know none of you will have heard of. My mom told me that we would never move again. I took those words to heart and started to make a new life in Arkansas, making friends I thought I could keep through high school and life. But then things went wrong. My mom came and told me and my brother we were moving in a month. WTF. It is at that point I learned to never trust anyone. We moved to Arizona halfway through the school year, so I had no idea what was happening. For the first time I was constantly failing my classes. I didn't see any hope in going on, so I had numerous thoughts of suicide, all around christmas time to make everything better
I now have gotten over most (Not all) of my thoughts of suicide, but I have been saving my money and checking bus schedules. I am not making any good friends here as well, so now I could say I have 1 friend I could trust completely out of everyone I know. I know that the fact that my mom moved me during puberty has a large affect on this, but oh well.

There I vented everything on my mind, and now I feel much better. Thanks for reading. Here is your reward.

[Hooblue]

Sorry to hear about that skyman, it must have been a real upheavel for you. It must be terrible to having to keep moving about and feeling like you don't have any roots so to speak.

Obviously I don't know either you or your mum well enough, but I'm sure she was only trying to do what was best for you and the family at the time and never intended for it to have a negative affect on you, so try not to blame her too much.

As for the suicidal thoughts, I'm no shrink but I can say that that's not the answer. You seem like a bright, fun, strong willed young man and I'm sure you won't have any problems making friends. Are you a member of any clubs or societies etc? And you do have many friends already. I know most people on here don't know each other very well but I'd like to think the majority were friends!

In terms of myself, I feel honoured that fortunately I haven't had to go through anything too bad in my life, but I guess that's got a lot to do with being lucky in terms of where I was born and what my family are like. The worst things I've ever had to deal with were probably relationships break ups, but most people experience those.

Just remember skyman, what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger. I'm sure you'll be fine mate, just remember there's always someone around here to talk to if needed.

Oh, and I'll have just butter on my crumpet, ta!

[skyman747]

I know my mom doesn't mean bad. I forgive the move from beautiful california to arkansas because she was going to lose her job in Cali. The thing that got me mad is that she said she went to the interviews for arizona and said "I promise we wont move their, I just want to use it as a trump card."
Ya, Like I said, I only have 1 friend that I actually know that I can turn to, excluding everyone here of course. I just dislike making friends I will never see or talk too again, which is essentially what happened with my friends I had back in arkansas. That is one reason I spend so much time on here is because I know no matter where I move, you guys are always here Hooray for corny-ness.

But enough about my life, I know there must be some other people going through trouble.

Oh, almost forgot your butter.


And I also figured you might like some tea to go with that.

[hillyjo13]

i'd just like to echo everything hoo said skyman im sorry about everything you have had to go through and i now it's hard to believe at the moment but parents usualy do these things for the right reasons (and in most cases are usualy the ones we should trust the most)

stay strong mate and push those suicidal thoughta to the back of your mind! this is a wonderful world we live in and happiness is sometimes just around the corner

my younger years were a brease but i had a rough time through my early twentys (most friends said i wouldn't make it past 25) but like i said this life changes at the strangest of times! at the age of 26 slumped in a pub i met jo (i wasn't looking for romance! it was the last thing on my mind) god nows why she sat down next to me but she did from that moment on my life changed and the happiness returned when zach was born in 2006 it just put the icing on the cake!

anyway theres plenty of great people on here (who are all your friends by the way) who you can pm at anytime! and when your a little older im sure most of us wouldn't mind a free holiday over to visit you

i'll pass on the crumpets today as im feeling a little full at the moment

[87sarah]

Hoo basically said it all!!
I am sorry that youve had to go through what you have Skyman. And the suicide thoughts are very silly considering you have got somewhere to go in life! Its clear to see by your input to this forum that you are a very well mannered, intelligent person it would be a waste if you were gone Skyman

Up until about the age of 16 I felt quite lost with my family, never did quite fit in but I bet so many people feel like that within their family when they are young. It does get better, much better! I know its not exactly the same thing but I moved schools 5 times while I was in education and always found it very hard to make friends and the ones I had made friends with never stayed in touch when Id moved to a new school. It used to upset me quite a bit but then I realised that the majority of the people you will meet in school arent still going to be around you when you leave.
Once you start college or uni, there will be a whole new group of people to make friends with that are more likely to stick around for longer as you grow older and start doing things you want to do and going places you want to go, you'll start to gain life long friends that have the same interests as you.

One important thing I've figured out, the people you can trust most are your family and loved ones.

Afterall, Im only 21 and I'm currently lookng forwards to moving to Portsmouth to start a new life with my future husband and finally get a job outside the family company and buy a new house!

[Hooblue]

Originally Posted by 87sarah

Once you start college or uni, there will be a whole new group of people to make friends with that are more likely to stick around for longer as you grow older and start doing things you want to do and going places you want to go, you'll start to gain life long friends that have the same interests as you.

Totally agree Sarah. I had lots of "friends" at school but hardly see any of them much these days. Most of my good friends now I met at uni or since I've been in work. Uni changed me alot as a person, mainly through giving me alot more confidence.

You've still got years ahead of you skyman and a bright future I bet. Don't worry too much as tings will click into place when you least expect tem to, just like hilly said.

[Sharp Family]

I echo everything everyone has said above. If you still feel so bad about it now, suicidal thoughts and everything, I really think you should seek help. I know it's helped my hubby immensely over the past few months.

The worst experience in my life to date has to be my husband nearly being killed 7 months ago at work. He was removing a skip from a house with his wagon when the ground gave way and the wagon crushed him up against a brick garage. He's now suffering PTSD and it has affected the whole family more than anyone knows to be honest. I too went through a time when I felt really bad, on one occasion thought about throwing myself under a car to get away from it all, but we're slowly getting there. He says I'm his rock and that I'm helping him to get through the hard times but he's in limbo at the moment, can't even consider working for at least 12 months, struggling with the shoulder that was damaged in the accident and generally feeling that life has nothing left for him. He's undergoing therapy for the PTSD but suffers constant flashbacks and nightmares which make him stop up to all hours in the morning because he's scared to go to bed. I really thought I was going to lose him that day and thank my lucky stars every single day that he's still here. They always say that there's always someone worse off than you, in this case it's my husband.

[biddenden_sue]

Skyman, you have mail. I echo the comments above. My message to you was too personal to post in public.

Sue

[Nicko]

Seriously mate I know how you feel.

When my parents got divorced my mum dropped the bombshell that we we're moving house. We moved from London (where I'd lived from birth for 12 years) up North to Sheffield. We moved on the Monday before I was due to start Secondary school (High School?) on the Wednesday. The worst day of my life was when I had to walk into an assembly hall with 2000 people laughing and joking with their friend's and I didn't know anyone. Add the fact that my parents had only just announced their divorce shortly before and I was pretty devastated. Anyway the 1st year of secondary school was pure hell. I was picked on constantly for my southern accent although I did make some really good friends. I also haven't seen my Dad since 2000 so that had a really big impact on the way I grew up. All I can say is that you've gotta see the bigger picture. I know it doesn't seem like it now but school is not the be all and end all. Obviously American culture is gonna be different but the best advice I could give is not to take it too seriously (obviously work your **** off for those grades though). As long as you are a nice person, you'll make good friends and who gives a **** about the rest of them? When you leave school you'll be able to stay in touch with the important people, and the rest you'll never have to see again!

Anyway things may be tough but you just need to get through it and not worry about it too much, you'll come out stronger at the end of it.

P.S. Weird little fact: It's illegal to not pronounce Arkansas as Arkansaw in the state.

[sherlockisback]

I've never moved, but I can tell you that upheaval comes in many forms and its never easy. You're very, very young yet and have much life to live, so good experiences will come in bunches later on. You seem like the type that will enjoy college.