Baby!! (woot?)

[Horforia]

i'll have been together with my fiancée for a year in 4 days on march the 24th! I'm excited as it is for that fact, but my problem(maybe) is that she is now pregnant, and a baby is on the way. we are both happy about this, and we both know we'll be caring parents. the problem is that i'm 18, she is two years younger, and we live in her parents house, and have no clue, plus are a lil scared to tell her parents.

any help on how to tell them?

anything other than the obvious of going and sitting down with them, talking about it, and risk getting blown to bits by the shotgun that i happen to know he keeps loaded behind his bedroom door.

they dont even know that she(my fiancée) is ...."sexually active", so theres a problem in itself. plus the fact that her father dosent even allow us to sleep in the same bed(I'm on the couch(which happens to be surprisingly very very comfortable!! SO comfortable that Ella(my fiancée) sometimes will come and kick me off the couch and make me take her bed...lol))


on a completely unrelated note...has anyone else noticed that the laughing smiley() looks like a grinning smile with a wiggly upper lip?

[skyman747]

Well, I think the best thing would be to tell them and be honest with them, because if you wait until the baby starts to become obvious, they may lose their trust in you, because you didn't come out and tell them the truth. It will probably be a little frightening for them to hear there daughter is underage and doing that sort of stuff, but just tell them that you are responsible, and dont argue with them.

[hillyjo13]

the first thing i would do in your situation is find that gun and unload it

[mjh24]

hey, your not the first and you wont be the last, but I agree with skyman, just come clean straight away, you must tell them as its not something you will be able to hide for long. not really sure what else to say, but good luck i am sure you will be fine.

[87sarah]

Good Luck with that, Im sure you will both be fine. Ellas parents will obviously be very shocked if not angry at the news, but all you can do is tell the truth as soon as possible and hope for the best. Do her parents even know you two are engaged?
Surely of they know that they will have thought at some point or another you two are going to be "doing it"

[nutter]

Originally Posted by skyman747

It will probably be a little frightening for them to hear there daughter is underage and doing that sort of stuff

Underage??? In the UK its 16 and then its legal.... if thats what ya meant lol.


I would also do what others have suggested, be honest

[FilthyTraxx]

Originally Posted by hillyjo13

the first thing i would do in your situation is find that gun and unload it

No Hilly, i would consider loading it in this case.

I was in this situation, but when i was 17 and the girl i was seeing was 16. We had only been seeing each other for about 8months, and she fell pregnant, but we both sat doown together and reliase that it would be stupid to go through with the preganancy, simply because we were both farrr to young to be dealing with something like that.

Her falling pregnant was a complete mistaake anyway, she was on the pill and i did use a condom but unfortunatly it split, so its not like i was going around doing unprotected sex, i was sensible in this scenario but, i think the best thing you guys can do is firstly, sit down together and talk it through, the pro's and con's of becoming parents at such a young age...is it really what you both want? Will it hold you guys back in later life? etc etc

Then, once you have decided tell the parents, but tell them in a way in which makes them feel calm, explain in a rashonal way, so that they dont fly off the handle, explain that your both adults, and you have spoke about it between yourselves and "THIS" is what were going to do about it. End of the day, i think that they will respect you more if you have previously spoke about it.

Good luck on it bud, keep us updated.

Oh, and dont leave things to late, as by that time...it could be to late to do anything about it if you change your mind.

[snazy20]

This reminds me of a similar situation I had a couple yrs back...scared the b'jesus out of me...but I'm not going to talk about that.

If you guys know what you want (which I'm sure you do), then make sure no matter what you'll stick together whatever they say and listen to each other. What I think is very important, is making sure you can give everything for the little one in 9months time, and if the parents disagree then all you need to do is find a place to live (obviously you may not have their support, but this is where staying together is important) and bring up your baby. It's a big thing telling them, but not the biggest since the baby is what you need to focus on...

Hope it goes well dude

[biddenden_sue]

I have to say that however you tell the parents, they will probably react badly AT FIRST. It's a normal reaction, but they should calm down quite quickly. Shotguns don't generally come into it unless the dad's a nutcase!

The important thing is that you face them together, and you assure them that you will stand by their daughter in whatever she and they decide to do (because they may well influence her decision).

I just want to reassure you that any parents who allow their 16 year old daughter's boyfriend to live with them and kip on the couch KNOW you are doing it when they aren't around. What young people tend to forget is that all older people were young once too!

The only reason they keep you separate at night is because they don't like the idea of hearing you at it in the next room! They will have had years of mastering how to do it without being heard, but young people tend to be a little noisier! It can be very unsettling for their parents!

Good luck and please keep us informed.

[Mechato]

First of all I'm gonna say: is this what you REALLY want? I mean think about it, you're 18, you have your whole life ahead of you, going out with your mates, I'm guessing you're in college or university right? how will you cope with a baby too?

At having a baby at such a young age, you won't be able to go clubbing or meet new people, to be honest mate you shouldn't be settling down until you're at least 30 in my opinion, and a baby will be a lot of stress for a 16 year old.

But it's up to you, and if you make the choice of keeping it and spending the rest of your life with her, then all I can say is good luck, and hope her parents accept. Good luck.